Love And Its Spice By Ovee

 Love And Its Spice 

By

Ovee

Love is most times an overwhelming feeling and we start to feel like we can surmount all of lives challenges and sometimes love Is enough but rationality calls for us to look at other factors that can lead to a good relationship. Let's rob mind on some the factors.

COMPATIBILITY;

Aside from the butterflies, you feel in your stomach do you and your supposed partner have things in common... do you agree on the major things in life like the number of children, beliefs both social and religious etc. Compatibility aids friendship. Your relationship won’t just be about sex but you can have meaningful conversations because you share common interests.

 

TRUST;

 Can you believe this person even though the evidence presented to you may seem otherwise? Can you trust that you can tell them your deepest secrets and they keep it? Without trust, the relationship suffers because you’ll always live in doubt and insecurities and trust me that sucks.

RESPECT;

If you do not have respect for your partner it’s easy for you to lose interest in them. Having common interests also helps with the respect because you tend to understand the level of work they’ve put into whatever they’re doing. Even if you don’t understand what they do you need to check if you respect them for it regardless or if they respect you and all you do.

LOYALTY;

You need to check if you’re loyal to each other, is the progress of your partner a priority to you? Or are you threatened at their success and vice versa. Many situations will present itself that’ll test your relationship so the both of you need to be able to choose each other regardless of the challenges.

COMMUNICATION;

This is an important factor in every relationship because if you cannot communicate you won’t be able to grow together, you need to be able to express yourselves, your feelings, ideas and needs. Even with abundance of love there’s bound to be misunderstandings. So can you talk to each other about everything no matter how scary it may be while trusting that your partner will UNDERSTAND? 

UNDERSTANDING;

Communication and understanding go together because if one of you is communicating and the other person doesn’t understand you are still in a stagnant position, so the question is.... do we understand ourselves? Lack of understandings breeds a lot of issues and misunderstanding which takes away the spice and fun in a relationship. If you don’t have good understanding with your partner now will be a good time to check your communication style and change it if necessary. 

SEXUAL ATTRACTION;

 In every relationship especially if you are considering marriage you need to be sexually attracted to each other because truly sex solves problems faster than any other thing. If you are in a celibate relationship it would not hurt to talk about your fantasies, what you like and what you don’t, you’ll sometimes find that some fantasies can be deal breakers so it’s safer to talk about it especially if you are considering marriage. You don’t want to find out on the wedding night that your partner came with a box of sex toys you’ll rather not want to try...now that can be awkward. 

SAFETY;

Do you feel safe with each other. Every other day we hear stories of people being killed or hurt by their partner. If you don’t feel safe with your partner you need to check if its just outside influence getting to you or if they are actually doing anything to trigger that fear, if they are then talk about it or that relationship is not for me because if you cant feel safe with your partner then thats a big problem.

If these things are not in the relationship you can always try to cultivate them, all it takes are two hearts that are willing to put in the work.